I did a little reading on the forum found:
If testmail.php doesn't work but testmail2.php does work, you'll need to specify the following hidden field in your forms:
<input type="hidden" name="mail_options" value="SendMailFOption" />
(You need FormMail version 2.12 or later to use the SendMailFOption feature.)
This happened to be my problem. testmail2.php works! I get the email. Im sorry for being so stupid as not to read this forum first... And I have little or next to no experience with php code and configuration, so I expect to write other stupid questions in the future.(but will try not to).
Thanks again for the very nice free program and the free forum for questions.